August 22, 2013

Examining your priorities

Instead of saying "I don’t have time" try saying "it’s not a priority," and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: "I’m not going to edit your résumé, because it’s not a priority." “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority."

If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.

~Laura Vanderkam

It's interesting to look at the things we say we don't have time for and realize that we really mean they're just not that important to us.

You can extend this concept to almost anything, but it really resonates with me in the context of building success. Everyone wants to build an empire and be successful—they just don't have time. Of course, following Laura Vanderkam's advice, it's easy to see that success isn't a priority to most people. Time is just an excuse.

We have plenty of time.

If you're putting your goals on the back burner because you'd rather watch TV all evening, you're probably not cut out for success. You have to want it.

Here's another way of thinking about it:
What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.

~Gretchen Rubin

Wondering what your priorities are? Look at what you do every day. If you're not happy about it, make a change.

August 4, 2013

Intolerant of intolerance

Ashley Esqueda tweeted a great adage this evening: "My admitted double standard: I'm intolerant of intolerance. The end."

I've never been one to seek out conflict; in fact, I try to avoid it when I can. In the past, when I've heard discriminatory statements made around me, I've remained silent. I didn't agree with it, but I didn't usually stand up against it either. It was just easier that way—why start a debate if you can't win? But after learning of the long-hidden but privately expressed bigotry of someone very close to me, I've reached a new philosophy:

It's time to stop being so goddamn polite.

I've written about this time and time again. It's 2013, and these problems still exist. Every time you walk out your front door, unless you're completely secluded from society, you're subject to racism, homophobia, biphobia, ableism, ageism, sexism, religious discriminationatheophobia, sizeism, and a whole host of others.

These people are among the most vile, narrow-minded, ignorant scum to ever walk the earth. I'd love to say they're going nowhere in life, but the fact is some of the most wealthy and successful people I know are openly bigoted toward one group or another.

I've come to condone a single type of bigotry, and that is bigotry against bigots. Like Ashley, I am intolerant of intolerance. There's no excuse for it, and I will not have such people in my life, nor will I do business with them. Their kind is not welcome in any business of mine.

I encourage everyone reading this to begin taking similar action. Stop being so tolerant of intolerance. Those who discriminate should likewise be discriminated against.